It also seems honorable that another woman would value motherhood over all my priorities. But I do not believe that I am selfish and she is not. There are women who chose motherhood for selfish reasons. There are mothers who act selfishly even if they chose motherhood in a burst of altruistic love. Selfishness and…
Author: holliesuemann
Telluride Bride
I knew I wanted to live in Telluride and marry Joe at exactly the same moment. We had been bathing in a stream in town park just after a long run on part of the Hardrock course that goes right through town. This was back when we had the time, stamina, and inclination to run…
On Blood and Honor
“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” —Ephesians, 6:2-3, RSV “Life, every man holds dear; but the dear man holds honor far more precious-dear, than life.” —William Shakespeare,Troilus and Cressida Tonight,…
Six Months in the Valley: the Man Problem in High Tech
If you live in Silicon Valley, or just on planet Earth, and you are surprised by the story that broke out of Google in the last few weeks, wherein an insane number of executives were found to have sexually harassed and violated female employees, the company engaged in massive payouts and cover-ups, and is now…
Horror and Humanity in a Post-Kavanaugh World
“It’s that I no longer know where I am. I seem to move around perfectly easily among people, to have perfectly normal relations with them. Is it possible, I ask myself, that all of them are participants in a crime of stupefying proportions? Am I fantasizing it all? I must be mad! Yet every day…
Aretha Franklin is Dead, and Suddenly the Whole World Seems Forever Changed
I am writing this while listening to Aretha in a tiny hotel room in Manhattan, a place that I will always associate with the Queen of Soul, both because her music seemed so much a part of the fabric of this city she loved and because my mother and I had the great pleasure of…
Not My Vibe, Not My Tribe. Or, Why I am Apparently Taking a Break from Yoga
In a recent interview on the fabulous new podcast Bare Naked Truth with my friend Abby Slate, she and I dished a bit about what makes me a “bad yogi” and what I find so troubling about yoga these days. I’d like to elaborate on some of that here. I’m not teaching much yoga these…
On Marriage, Perfectionism, and Reconciliation
July 16, 2018 “Not every fateful moral choice, every judgment of good and bad or right and wrong, is a matter for public debate…[T]he issues in moral perfectionism are not crises of conscience of this kind…they are deciding on what kinds of lives they wish to live and whether they wish to live them together,…
Notes From a Feminist Housewife
“Women have sat indoors all these millions of years, so that by this time the very walls are permeated by their creative force, which has, indeed, so overcharged the capacity of bricks and mortar that it must needs harness itself to pens and brushes and business and politics.” —Virginia Woolf, A Room of One’s Own…
Thoughts on the Teacher-Student Relationship
In the days following Michelle Goldberg’s expose for Slate Magazine concerning allegations of sexual harassment and misconduct at Jivamukti Yoga, a lot of debate and discussion has taken place on the Internet. Many teachers and students are genuinely trying to grapple with what happened and think and speak carefully about it. But there are also…
